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Announcing Your Engagement with Excitement and Finesse

Getting engaged is such an exciting experience you will want tell the world when it happens to you. It is estimated that many women who become engaged succumb to the need to share their good news by calling their best friends; it is estimated that more than 25 % of newly engaged women choose to break the news to their BFFs before anyone else. Others proceed to Facebook or Twitter to announce their blissful state.

Announcing Your Engagement

Before the advent of social media and the far-reaching power of text messages, engagements were announced according to certain rules of etiquette. These rules were meant to ensure that the engagement was made known in the most proper way possible. Most of all, the engagement announcement protocol was fundamentally intended to avoid hurting the feelings of the friends and relatives of the couple.

Traditional Etiquette for Announcing Engagements

In the past, a prospective father-in-law was asked for “the hand of his daughter” in marriage. Although this act was mostly ceremonial, it was often accomplished with fanfare. In some places around the world, this occasion was a veritable feast involving elders from both the family of the prospective bride and the prospective groom. This saved both parties the trouble of having to inform relatives about the change in their relationship. Often, the engagement ring could only be presented after the father had given his blessing to the union.

After this, a formal announcement was made in the papers or the local community bulletin. This announcement was customarily made by the bride-to-be's parents, and it usually conformed to a prescribed format. This was to be followed by an engagement party, which was de rigueur for people moving in upper middle class circles. Like engagement rings, engagement parties were part of the deal.

Blending Old and New Ways in Announcing Engagements

Regardless of how modern a couple is, there are certain family obligations that they would do well to comply with in announcing their engagement. The fewer the feathers they ruffle, the more harmonious their own lives will be. Here's how old and new ways can be blended for win-win situations.

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  1. Inform your parents first. If your fiancée did not have to go through the ritual of asking your father for “your hand”, it is all the more important that you give your parents the honor of being the first to know about your engagement. Even if you do not enjoy a warm and close relationship with your parents, you need to tell them you have accepted your boyfriend's proposal, and give them a chance to gush about your new solitaire engagement ring. This news is too significant for them to hear about it from other people.
  2. Inform your closest friends and relatives personally. They would be badly hurt if they had to hear the good news about you from the newspaper of from other people. If you are busy, you don't have to spend hours over the phone talking to them. However, you must certainly find other ways to let the important people in your life hear from you personally about such an important matter. You can send cards and mail these to them, making sure the cards get to the addressees before you go public.
  3. Before the formal engagement party, give an intimate “letting-you-know” party. Another way you can inform close friends and relatives about your engagement before everyone else is to invite them for tea or coffee. You don't have to serve fancy food – pizza or sandwiches will do. What is important is for you to let people you love that they mean more to you than your usual FB friends. Be forewarned, though, the main course in such a gathering won't be the cupcakes you serve; the diamond ring on your finger will take center stage. news paper announced
  4. Make a formal announcement. Although many couples no longer think it important to announce their engagement in print media, there is something formal and official about seeing this kind of news in the local papers. Put together a nicely worded notice with a posed photo (digital copy, please), and send it to your alumni newsletter, your pastoral bulletin, and your local news editor. Most newspapers now have their own guidelines and will only accept announcements of this type in soft copy, but most are still glad to have pictures and stories of people who belong to the community.
  5. Use social media wisely. Most people fill their FaceBook and Twitter accounts with very informal posts. Many of these posts combine exuberant commentaries with sometimes emotional venting about unpleasant things. It is not uncommon to see the account owners share their relatively intimate reflections with their social network. The more conservative etiquette gurus do not think social media is the proper place for announcing engagements, but a more liberal view would say that there is no reason why your engagement should not be discussed in Facebook or Twitter – after the formalities have been observed. Through your account, you may even want to elicit online suggestions and advice about wedding venues, wedding rings, and other related topics. Just make sure you keep your discussion board healthy and light. Don't do anything impulsive like ranting on FB when you are irritated by inane comments.
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Tips and Reminders for Announcing Your Engagement

Some things are important to bear in mind when you announce your engagement. It doesn't matter where and how you make your announcement, there are some things you need to consider for everyone's peace of mind (yours, most of all).

  1. Know what to discuss and what not to discuss when you make your announcement. The formal announcements should include your full names, your parents' names, the place where you come from, and a few important credentials. These credentials can include where the two of you work, and where you graduated. The general rule is to include only the things you want the whole world to know. Bear in mind that once details are published, everyone will have access to this information.
  2. If you mother raised you singlehandedly, she can make the announcement on her own. If your mother has remarried and she is making the announcement, she can either make it on her own or make it with your stepfather, or find a polite way for your parents to make the announcement while stating your mother's new name. The important thing is for your announcement to be politely faithful to your actual situation. People are more accepting today of diverse family arrangements.
  3. Once the word is out about your engagement, be ready to receive tons of unsolicited advice. Many people will have very clear and definite ideas about what your gown, your menu, and your wedding ring should be like. The busybodies mean well, so try to be patient and focus on the pleasant and exciting things taking place in your life. lady with ring
  4. Get used to endless questions about when the big day is, where you are going to live, and other details about your personal life. If you've chosen an eternity ring for your wedding band, pay no attention to tactless comments about what an impractical piece of jewellery it is. Be consoled that an equal number of friends and relatives will swoon over your precious circlet.
  5. No matter how busy your days are after your announcement has been made, make sure you take time to have your ring properly appraised and adequately insured. Ask your friends for names of companies known for their expertise in insuring personal jewelry such as diamond rings.
  6. It will be quite a while before people stop asking for a good view of your ring – which happens to be on your hand. Therefore, apart from getting insurance, another thing you need to get is a manicure. Show of your ring, enjoy the attention while it lasts, and allow yourself to bask in the thought that so many people are happy for you.